Domestic Violence: Warning Signs

Even though every relationship is different, these common warning signs are often part of a relationship that is abusive. Many abusive relationships include some of these warning signs but may not include all of them. If you think your relationship might be unhealthy or abusive, there is help available. See our resources link to find out about services and support.

Does your partner:

  • Say that you are responsible for your partner’s problems, feelings, or behavior?
  • Tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?
  • Call you names?
  • Refuse to listen to your opinion while insisting that you see things from his/her perspective?
  • Act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers or try to isolate you from them?
  • Try to control what you wear or how you style your hair?
  • Check-up on what you’re doing by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
  • Read your mail or email, check your cell phone log, or go through your personal belongings?
  • Act very different when you are alone together than when you are around other people?
  • Hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things that scare you?
  • Try to control the money in the relationship (e.g. keeping you financially dependent or being dependent on you and then messing up your credit)?
  • Threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?
  • Force you to have sex when you do not want to or in ways that you don’t feel comfortable with?
  • Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

Do you:

  • Feel like you’re “walking on eggshells” around your partner?
  • Feel worse about yourself now than when you started the relationship?
  • Feel emotionally or physically unsafe with your partner?
  • Have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it’s the right thing to do?